By: Usha Krishnan
Life Coach. Educationist & NLP Coach
New Delhi
Just Like That Vs You, Just Like That
Words are vehicles of imaginations. They have the energy and power to melt even rocks. Words are expressions of emotions and imprints of feelings. They play a major role in framing the identity of an individual. The choice of words in our talk, in our writings, in our communications at workplace and even in our daily interactions with the world around, weaves our personality. They have a decisive role in sculpturing us and also on the other hand in deconstructing us.
The power of words is magical. Their impact on us, on the listeners and on the ecology around depends on the way they are instilled our conversations.
"Words coined together meaningfully and sequentially, become phrases which again get elongated to sentences by the addition of more meaningful words", this is one of the usual practices of learnings in an English Grammar class. During those days in our school, many phrases were deliberately absorbed into memory subconsciously whether we comprehended them well or not.
Just like that is one such phrase among them which makes one dig deep into with its different shades of meaning. How many occasions must have gone through our life with these three words were either uttered by us or heard by us.
Seeing our mother swamped in her kitchen routines— monitoring the boiling milk, forgetting to switch the gas to simmer, and chopping vegetables with a carefree. abandon—we often asked, “What happened, Mom?” to which she would simply reply, “Just like that,”
Before we brushed off the thought and left her to her busy world, did we ever think back then that behind just like that, there shrouded an argument she might have had with Dad the previous night or that it accompanied her deep sigh in reaction to some hurtful words hurled upon her by someone else?
While enjoying some grape wine moments with your bosom friend, showering words of thorny comments on a mutual acquaintance or your lecturers, the sight of blankness in your friend's eyes and in the mechanical way of nodding you received for your words, would have made you to ask, "Hey, what happened?" Those three words again would surface again....."Just like that".
Did we stop a while and spare some moments for that friend, to ensure our friend, the power of accompaniment?
If it had happened so, how soon the after effect of that particular event, could have been rewritten positively!!
Later on, while getting in an agreement of sharing the dreams, aspirations and our life's whole entity with someone so special for us, again there would have occurred the situations for either speak out Just like that or to hear it from our soulmate. Here it matters a lot to accept that many twists and turns of woes or grimaces happening in between are to be considered as just like that because ultimately we have to travel together again.
Instead of that, if we try to dig deep into them, the relationship would be drifted apart ending up with a wide chasm or as a gorge deep down in appearance which would not be able to be brought back to its normalcy once again. So let them be just like that considered as just like that only.
On turning our focus to another usually heard usage ‘You Just like that’, it shows the other side of the coin. Here a just like that attitude would be in vain. There is an authoritative tone in this phrase, an undertone of forcing or thrusting one's ideas on the other person .If someone tells us ‘You, just like that’, we need not be subservient to their words all of a sudden. It is better to wait for a while, taking our own time to understand the occasion of being spoken to like that.
If the tonality of voice by the speaker is in an authoritative way, it is better not to pay any heed to that, but to politely shift our focus away from it to mellow the coarseness of the atmosphere into a friendly one encircled with a sweet thought.
On the other hand, in case the same phrase has been uttered with a tone of affection, with the intention of giving a suggestion to us, with a whole lot of understanding about us, then it would be always better to follow their words whole heartedly.
Dear my fellow travellers, I am scripting these words to you all not just like that, but with an appeal to the Almighty to shower his choicest blessings on me to reach to each one of you with a loving whisper in your ears that "Please. You just like that"
The words from me to you are not to be washed ashore as just like that and not to be vanished from mind without creating even a minute scope of pondering over them in the moments being born for each one of us to learn, unlearn, and relearn and to be transformed in life.
I spoke to you through my words here just like that. Would you please just, like that?
Usha Krishnan
Life Coach. Educationist & NLP Coach
New Delhi
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